Hey look at me being social – Lunch at Fatima’s Lebanese restaurant, Sydney

My social outing of the year that wasn’t family – and almost all of those were really a caring situation so I was “on” at all times. So it was nice to be able to head down to Sydney and catch up with Mel and Kristin in person for the first time since the Brisbane conference (yes, it really has been that long).

A spread of Middle Eastern appetisers including a plate of houmous sprinkled with paprika, a bowl of pitta bread, a plate of fried cauliflower with drizzle, and a plate of pickled turnips and cucumbers.

When I let Kristin know I was on the train down, she sussed out what I might like and we settled on Lebanese and Mel met me at the station and we toddled up to Fatima’s on Cleveland Street. Quiet little place with old decor and images of Lebanon past and not as far past.

A small plate of crispy, sesame-topped falafel balls resting on sliced raw onions.

I stared blankly at the menu, no idea what I wanted. The others sorted out the orders with the owner, who compromised and gave me one of each lamb and chicken skewers on plate because I really couldn’t decide.

A plate of Mediterranean food featuring grilled chicken and beef skewers, two falafel balls, tabbouleh, houmous with paprika, and pickled turnips.

I loved all the meat and the cauliflower and humus. The pickles were a great contrast, and the felafel crunchy outside and not dry on the inside. I really meant to get some baklava to take home with me, but perhaps another time.

A white plate piled with pieces of grilled, charred meat and a slice of onion.

We caught up about life and politics and plans for the future, short and long term. I don’t think I really have any yet, nor really know when I’ll be ready for more. My drafts want me to write more about food banks, and maybe I will this week. But we’ll see where my headspace is at. I haven’t quite got a current routine and keep laying catch up.

A woman with red hair and glasses holding a bottle of Diet Coke while wearing a shirt with a Hallowe’en print of pumpkins, ghosts, and cobwebs.

Treated myself to an overpriced Diet Coke for the trip home – much emptier train than the one down but the 10 carriage trains still confuse me with where I am in them. At least it doesn’t matter too much, I just need to not sit in the first couple of carriages in case it’s too long for the platform I do arrive home on.

A wooden bed with a white duvet featuring a green and gold leaf pattern, with a white pillow and a tissue box on the headboard.

How good are clean sheets tho?

A dollar per welfare recipient to charities? Happy Anti-Poverty Week!

“A $2 million dollar boost” to ceo-heavy vanity projects such as Ozharvest and Foodbank is more insult than cash splash from the government at the start of Antipoverty WeekΒ  for 2026. With people on welfare more than overrepresented in early death figures, and deaths of despair (addiction and mental health related deaths) happy snaps and breathy thank you from Big Names in Food Relief take over from the every day stories of people queuing up to hopefully get a free bag of veges that they hopefully don’t have to throw out too much of themselves.

"It’s the start of Anti-Poverty Week, and instead of ending government induced poverty the Minister for Social Services has announced meagre funding for emergency relief charities that amounts to less than $1 per welfare recipient, while people in this country are dying from poverty."

— πŸˆβ€β¬›πŸ’œ phonakins πŸ‰πŸŒ² (@phonakins.com) 2026-10-12T21:39:10.852Z

I mean I only had to throw out 2/5 apples in this weeks bag, and most of the grapes are fine. At least it’s not the crumpets I was relieved my partner declined because when i went to have one the morning I brought THOSE home they had those little spots of mold you cant see through the thick plastic.

rotting basil
This basil made me cry

Long life milk has just gone up to $1.80 a litre at my local, after hitting $1.50 this time last year. So have most canned goods, which are still waaaay cheaper at aldi, but you know it’s not the name brands as donated with much fan fare to the purple supermarket…

Shelves stocked with cartons of Australia’s Own skimmed and whole milk, with handwritten price signs reading $1.80 and a sign limiting purchases to two per week.

Anyway

Raise the rate, build and buy public housing, put a rent freeze in place and empower people to look after themselves and their communities.

Happy Anti-Poverty Week!

I have written a million things on the folly of foodbanks already Feel free to share and quote them

https://phonakins.com/2024/12/09/xmas-shutdown-much-needed-time-off-for-volunteers-but-heres-how-long-til-the-food-banks-reopen/

https://phonakins.com/2024/11/18/love-me-some-fake-mint-clice-bikkies-but-that-foodbank-offering-needs-some-actual-food/

https://phonakins.com/2024/11/29/food-banks-are-just-a-more-expensive-way-to-get-food-that-isnt-necessarily-suitable-to-to-poor-people-prove-me-wrong/

https://phonakins.com/2025/01/15/food-banks-are-broken-just-like-the-rest-of-system-they-are-in/

https://phonakins.com/2025/04/09/anzac-biscuits-cost-more-at-the-food-bank-than-aldi-thats-it-thats-the-title/

and the og
https://phonakins.com/2023/09/10/what-are-foodbank-prices-really-like/

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Squeaky Wheeling may get Results, but omg it’s Exhausting

I thought I’d hit a wall a week ago, but then I hit a bigger harder one. Because I only slowed down a little but kept going. Burnt myself on the coffee machine, walked of with part of an order, that sorta thing.

But mum got moved to the local private hospital on Monday afternoon. After my emails to the minister et al, after calling it what it was – discrimination – for her not taking her or others because they need hoisting. Not at the stage at going into whether this means all people who need the sort of care mum needs now would be rejected, but they appeased me. For now.

caramel tart with cream with a bit out of it

So we’re eating the yummy private hospital food and trying to stay sane, since there’s not really anything to DO there, but exist and be cared for. I’ve not yet asked if the fees still kick in after 35 days but we’ve got a word on a possible place local in “a couple of weeks” so hopefully we’re out by September 11 and don’t have to find out. They don’t cost nearly as much as the places on the northern beaches, but there’s still $550k deposits and ongoing fees for private beds here too.

The 35-Day Rule

Even though I spend an awful lot of time looking at health and welfare stuff, I have A LOT to learn about the stuff that affects older people (generally 65 years + in Australia) outside of my brief grasp of the Aged Pension and how it differs from DSP.

This week’s learnings were about the 35-day rule in NSW public hospitals for “Nursing Home Type Patients“. A “Nursing home type patient is when you’re finished needing the hospital treatment for whatever you came in with (and also anything else that came up along the way) and you’re basically just receiving the level of care a car home would give – this include regular medications if they don’t need adjusting, toileting and shower and other personal care support, and accommodation and meals. After 35 days at this level of care they can start charging “at a rate equivalent to 85% of the aged pension” for care and board.

If you get sick in that time (eg you have another stroke or you get a UTI or a hospital acquired infection) you can moved back to being a regular patient and not charged, but the clock doesn’t reset. Once you’re deemed back in maintenance mode they start charging again.

This is meant to encourage people to get their wiggle on in getting their Nan into an aged care placement. Which might be a nice idea to the bean counters, but families have very little influence on getting those placements once they paperwork is all done. Which are usually done within a month if there’s social work support to do so.

There are no aged care beds anywhere, so charging a daily fee isn’t going to get Grandma into care sooner, it’s just another stressor on the family regardless of whether they can “Afford” it or not. There’s no bed for fee paying residents or fully commonwealth supported ones. If anything this fee should be on the federal government if it’s to incentivise a placement.

After 35 in a hospital after you're deemed well enough for discharge but are stuck because you're waiting for an aged care placement NSW health starts billing you an amount equiv to 85% of the pension for board and care. It can be waived for hardship but yeah should be billed to the feds.

— πŸ’œ phonakins πŸ‰πŸŒ² (@phonakins.com) 2026-08-20T11:18:31.961Z

The 85% is of the single pension rate, which is going to be $1237.70 a fortnight from September 20, or $933 for a member of a couple. It can be waived for “financial stress” which would anyone relying on the pension for their income, and certainly screwing over the partner of the person stuck in hospital.

Social Security Payment Parameters 20 September 2026 indexation Rates Pension Rates Pension β€” Single β€” Resident Component (per fortnight) Previous Amount 20 Sep 2026 Increase Basic Rate $1,100.30 $1,135.40 $35.10 Pension Supplement $86.50 $88.20 $1.70 Energy Supplement $14.10 $14.10 - Typical Total Rate $1,200.90 $1,237.70 $36.80 Note: also applies to residents temporarily absent (weeks 1 to 6). Note: also includes illness separated, respite care or partner in gaol. Pension β€” Partnered (each) β€” Resident Component (per fortnight) Previous Amount 20 Sep 2026 Increase Basic Rate $829.40 $855.90 $26.50 Pension Supplement $65.20 $66.50 $1.30 Energy Supplement $10.60 $10.60 - Typical Total Rate $905.20 $933.00 $27.80 Note: also applies to residents temporarily absent (weeks 1 to 6).

The other indexation rates for September 20 are here.

With the scaremongering news that rents are looking to go up 30%, the $2 a week rent assistance increases are, as always, laughable. My rent will increase in December, waiting to see by how much. Last year it was $50/week with the signing of another 12 month lease.

Commonwealth Rent Assistance Commonwealth Rent Assistance β€” SSAct β€” Maximum rates Family situation (per fortnight) Previous Amount 20 Sep 2026 Increase Single $219.40 $223.80 $4.40 Single β€” Sharer $146.27 $149.20 $2.93 Partnered β€” Illness separated $219.40 $223.80 $4.40 Partnered β€” Temporarily separated $206.80 $211.00 $4.20 Couple $206.80 $211.00 $4.20 Commonwealth Rent Assistance β€” SSAct β€” Rent thresholds Family situation (per fortnight) Previous Amount 20 Sep 2026 Increase Single $154.80 $157.80 $3.00 Single β€” Sharer $154.80 $157.80 $3.00 Partnered β€” Illness separated $154.80 $157.80 $3.00 Partnered β€” Temporarily separated $154.80 $157.80 $3.00 Couple $250.80 $255.80 $5.00 Commonwealth Rent Assistance β€” SSAct β€” Rent ceilings Family situation (per fortnight) Previous Amount 20 Sep 2026 Increase Single $447.34 $456.20 $8.86 Single β€” Sharer $349.83 $356.74 $6.91 Partnered β€” Illness separated $447.34 $456.20 $8.86 Partnered β€” Temporarily separated $430.54 $439.14 $8.60 Couple $526.54 $537.14 $10.60

And with the increasing unemployment rate, more are waiting on their extra $8.10 a week and for it to have already disappeared into the nether.Β Jobseeker Payment Rates Note: some of the following rates may apply to Special Benefit recipients. JobSeeker Payment β€” Single β€” No dependent children Component (per fortnight) Previous Amount 20 Sep 2026 Increase Basic Rate $808.70 $824.90 $16.20 Energy Supplement $8.80 $8.80 - Typical Total Rate $817.50 $833.70 $16.20 JobSeeker Payment β€” Single β€” With dependent children Component (per fortnight) Previous Amount 20 Sep 2026 Increase Basic Rate $866.00 $883.30 $17.30 Energy Supplement $9.50 $9.50 - Typical Total Rate $875.50 $892.80 $17.30 JobSeeker Payment β€” Single β€” Principal carer of a dependent child Component (per fortnight) Previous Amount 20 Sep 2026 Increase Basic Rate $866.00 $883.30 $17.30 Energy Supplement $9.50 $9.50 - Pharmaceutical Allowance $7.00 $7.00 - Typical Total Rate $882.50 $899.80 $17.30

So, mum’s in purgatory, but a slightly quieter one after moving to a smaller hospital, but not the private one that rejected other the day they said she was moving and was packed up and transport on the way, the one that at least two staff at the current hospital have said she should go to and a couple more expressed surprise at the rejection.

A lime green paper coffee cup with a black lid and sleeve sits on a dark wooden picnic table. The cup sleeve features black text and graphics including Central Catering, Go Market, and a small illustration of a building on a hill. To the right of the cup is a clear rectangular plastic container with a blue latch holding two rectangular slices of frosted pink cake. A metal fork rests inside the container on top of the cake. In the blurred background other drink cups are partially visible including one with a yellow logo. Bright sunlight creates a strong glare from the upper left.

So we wait, drink lots of coffee, keep calling the same places just to see and I unfortunately am getting a new area of welfare and health to specialise in complaining about.

It’s August apparently.

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Waiting

Currently waiting for my new washing machine to arrive. But that’s cool, apparently we’re the next delivery and since they gave us a 3 hour window it’s been pretty easy for a Sunday morning.

Waiting for mum to get an aged care bed. Waiting for her to move to a different hospital to wait for that so she’s not in a depressing dungeon ward with old men dying across from her. The staff are lovely but she really needs to get out. She has a loaner wheelchair so we can take her into the fresh air each day for coffee and a break. Trying to not feel guilty for staying home today but also telling Dad to stay home and rest because he’s really not well and we’re now waiting for his Haematologist appointment on the 24th. His white blood cell count went up again since his last blood test. Mine are normal though. I did bloods last week and they’re all normal.

Waiting on Bruce’s colonoscopy. We’re been waiting 4 months, been told to expect 6. Waiting for mum’s wheelchair of her own. We were waiting for Dad to say okay to building a ramp to the house so mum can at least visit. But he’s said yes to that at least. Now to get him to okay us going to buy a wheelchair friendly mini van.

A tan dog with a black collar and circular metal tag stands on wet dark rocks at the edge of a large calm body of water. The dog is in profile facing left with head tilted upward eyes partially closed and ears erect. Its front paws are planted in a shallow puddle on the rock surface which shows patches of yellow orange and dark wet textures along with scattered seaweed. Behind the dog the water stretches across the frame reflecting a clear blue sky. Distant tree-covered shores and low hills line the far side of the water under bright daylight.